Andre's definitely feeling both of these. Which is perfectly normal, in fact considered a development milestone, for babies around his age.
What is separation anxiety?
Separation anxiety and stranger anxiety both coincide with a new intellectual skill called object permanence. They now remember objects and specific people that are not present. They will search for toys that have dropped out of sight. They are able to call up a mental image of what (or who) they are missing. They don’t want the stranger, because the stranger is not you.They understand that people leave before they learn that people return. They can tell from your actions that you are about to leave. Anxiety begins to build even before you leave.They can’t tell from your actions that you are about to return. They have no idea when – or even if – you will come back. And they miss you intensely. For them, each separation seems endless.Dropping a screaming child at day care tugs at parents' hearts. Much nighttime screaming is an expression of separation anxiety. Sleep is a scary separation.Peek-a-boo and bye-bye are fun ways for us to interact with babies, and great ways to teach them about object permanence. For babies at this age, these are issues of great concern.
Read more: http://www.drgreene.com/azguide/separation-anxiety#ixzz0qJsi0e6b
He wants mummy and daddy to carry and be around. When we are in his line of sight, he doesn't mind playing on the floor by himself, grinning away. However, the moment, i walked away, he'll start to shout for us to come back. Even though, i still talk to him aloud when i leave the room, Andre does not feel appease until he sees me.
Likewise when he sees strangers. He used to let everyone carry him, but nowadays he is more wary. Sometimes, even grandpa or grandma also cannot handle him. He is like a sticky pea. I feel bad throwing him to Aunty Jann the first day she arrives, but i really want them to get used to each other as soon as possible. After a week, I still can sense Andre is not 100% comfortable with her and will fly back to me when i outreach my arms.
To be frank, i feel good about this. Haha, my own child preferring to be with me. However, i need to tell myself, one day will come when Andre starts to realize Aunty Jann is the primary caretaker (after all he spends like 10 hours with her a day while Kevin and I are both at work, something that i really can't helped), and he chooses to be with her rather than me. I think i will be heartbroken that day.
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